Thursday, October 8, 2015

INTENTIONAL SUCCESS VOL 3



Choosing the RIGHT FRIENDS (Company)
Weekly Motivation for 5th October – 9th October 2015 by Ndimofor Aretas

Good Morning dear students;
Have you ever heard of a saying that; “Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are”?

Here is another one I read from somewhere; “A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses”

Believe me when I tell you that these statements are not just statements, ….. they explain the importance of friends and company, and their effect on YOU AND YOUR DESTINY…!

In summary, a friend is a person you know well and regard with affection and trust…. Synonyms to friend include; companion, comrade, fellow associate, acquaintance etc…

In this write up, I will briefly explain why it is important to choose THE RIGHT FRIENDS to hang out with, especially for your success……

You need to understand that we become part of what we are around;
ATTITUDES ARE VERY CONTAGIOUS !!!

If you hang around failures, you’ll definitely end up being a failure yourself BUT on the other hand if you hang around hardworking and successful students and if you are really serious about your success, then you will definitely also CATCH success !!!

Your friends will either stretch your vision... or choke your dreams.  It is therefore very important to know the kinds of friends you hang around….. 

Let’s take a brief look at the characteristics of “bad students” who are definitely bad friends;

x    They are very absent minded during lessons, never participate in class and always have stories and slangs to distract you with especially during lessons when the teacher is explaining a point in class.

x    They always pay keen attention only to teachers’ mistakes and laugh out the loudest when such mistakes are made.

x    They never like to study or do their assignments in time and always want to copy completed assignments from you or others.  During the sharing of papers or report cards, they already know that they have failed and always run behind teachers trying to get correct marks for wrong answers.

x    Whenever you try to bring up study related topics, they either blow it off or bring up a different discussion which has no relationship to studies, for example, the kind of meal they’ll eat when they return from school, the new gifts that they have recently acquired (maybe from their boyfriends) the strategies that they will use to woe the new beautiful and naïve female students….and so on….

x    They are very proud and popular when it comes to breaking school rules and regulations and they are regularly out for punishment and often give provocative nicknames to their teachers especially the discipline masters.  I call them Teachers’ inspectors because some of them take up the duty of commenting about teachers’ looks and comparing items like cell phones shoes, dressing etc….. 

x    They jeer and give nicknames and even bully the hardworking students……

x    Generally they are a nuisance to the school administration, teachers and especially the learning atmosphere.

These are the “Dream Killers.” Or “success vampires”… they suck the success out of you and kill your God given dreams…… I’m very sure that you know some of them (maybe I’ve just described you..!)

On the other hand, good students who are focused on their success and their future are the direct opposite;

ü They are active and participate in class especially during lessons and are always performing well during exams…

ü Some of them are so quiet and focused that some school mates and discipline masters never know them, except during the award of prizes for excellence!  They are always being mocked at by the recalcitrant students who give them nicknames like John book or Mary book, book worms, nerds etc….

ü Above all, they are GOD FEARING…!

I call them NOURISHING FRIENDS….. Because they nourish your dreams and help you to grow positively….

Dear students, in order to succeed, you need to EVALUATE YOUR FRIENDSHIPS….but that will only be really accurate if you have a plan for your success and know what it will take to achieve it
Now I’m adding another step… try to include in your plan a list of all your friends and then ask yourself this BIG QUESTION
ARE THESE FRIENDS HELPING ME TOWARD SUCCESS OR ARE THEY HOLDING ME BACK?

Are you surrounding yourself with “bad friends” and spending a lot of time with them in your leisure hours? If so, I’m going to ask you to think about spending much less time with these friends  — or even no time at all with them! 

If you’re serious about improving yourself as a human being, then you have to start associating with people who can take you to the NEXT LEVEL.

As you increase your associations with nourishing people, you’ll feel better about yourself and have renewed energy to achieve your goals. You’ll become a more positive, upbeat person — the kind of person others LOVE TO BE AROUND….! 

“I used to think it was important to associate with positive people and to limit involvement with negative people.  Now, I believe it’s essential if you want to be a high achiever and a happy individual”.

-Jeff Keller  (from his book…..ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING) -

  So, surround yourself with positive, nourishing people — they’ll lift you up the ladder of success….
I have a NEW VERY SPECIAL NOURISHING friend, who has helped me especially this year and has promised to give me all I will ever need to succeed in anything I could ever dream of and believe that I can achieve….. 

Is that not MARVELOUS…? In fact I can even hear you thinking WAAAOOOOWWWW… and some of you are asking WHO IS HE OR SHE….? 

 Hahahahaahaha……..! 

My friend is actually a HE.. and if you promise never to lie to him, then I will give you his name and how you can meet him….
DO YOU PROMISE?    ………..

Ok His name is JESUS CHRIST… and I’m sure you already know where to meet Him… Just regularly attend a Good Bible based church (His School), read the Bible (His TEXTBOOK) as often as possible, practice what He has taught you and constantly COMMUNICATE with Him through prayers and He will take you to THE NEXT LEVEL……!
IN JESUS’ NAME,
AMEN.
By Ndimofor Aretas
Monday, 05/09/2015
(For the week of 5th October – 9th October 2015)

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