STOP
COMPLAINING!
(Count
your Blessings!)
Weekly
Motivation for 16th November – 20th November 2015 by
Ndimofor Aretas
Good
Morning dear students;
HOW ARE YOU?
After my last write-up on this
topic, I have observed a lot of positive changes in the way some respond to
this question.... I see a lot of smiling too, especially because the answers often
come in two Sets;
First
there is I’m Fine (which fades out).... and then another
more positive response which fades in...
I
observed this in some students trying to force themselves to say FANTASTIC.....
They started with
I’m
F I N...... which did not end and then they coughed out FINTASTIC in a
mumble....!
Another
student who was fund of responding with I’M JUST THERE... began with I’M JUST
and then ended with T E R R I F I C ! Hahahahahaha
!
It
is a good start. It will not come in one
day, so I am encouraging you to keep pushing it out and before you know it, you
will start saying it out loud and it will become part of you...!
There are some questions that many
students have also been asking me... such as; “Sir, what if I don’t feel fine, for example I have a head ache or I am
tired or I have a problem in a particular subject or I have just failed a test....etc......
Should I move around saying that I am FANTASTIC?”
Another big question is
SHOULD
I STOP COMPLAINING?
Before I answer the above questions,
let me explain a few things I have come to understand;
IT
IS NATURAL TO COMPLAIN, BUT DON’T OVER DO IT OR EXAGGERATE IT!
When
you discuss your problems in an attempt to search for solutions, or when you
share your life experiences (including disappointments) with friends or
relatives in the context of bringing them up to date on the latest developments
in your life. That’s constructive and commendable!
Part
of being human is SHARING OUR EXPERIENCES and SUPPORTING EACH OTHER.
Some
of us however often exaggerate and blow some little things way out of proportion
and perspective!
-
Do you know of students
who INVENT and EXAGGERATE illnesses especially slight headaches which they call
FRONTAL HEADACHES... especially to escape from tests, exams or some lessons?
-
Do you know of students
who quarrel, fight or remain standing because another student is SITTING on THEIR
BENCH....?
-
Do you know of students
who complain about the COLOUR OF THEIR EXERCISE BOOK COVERS or about the way
their blue pens are flowing or about their school bags, school shoes etc...
-
Do you know of students
who get upset because of the weather?
I am sure you now understand the kind of
COMPLAINTS I am referring to.
It simply makes no sense to get upset about things
over which you have no control and which have no significant impact on your
life! It stresses you up, and send
others away from you!
DO NOT SWEAT THE SMALL STUFF!!!
Life presents too many difficult challenges for us
to get bogged down with silly things like that. And when you complain about
insignificant things, you’re also saying something about yourself. I’m wondering how you’ll react when you
really have a problem worth worrying about!
Now,
to answer the questions, I will simply suggest that when you have REAL PROBLEMS
like if you don’t feel well, you should actually go to a doctor or someone who
can solve your problem!
I
believe that in schools, there are guardian counsellors who can assist you to
some extent with academic issues and subject teachers can assist you if you
have difficulties in their subjects and ARE WILLING to find solutions....
AND FOR QUESTION TWO I SAY
YES,
DON’T COMPLAIN IF YOU ARE NOT SEEKING FOR A SOLUTION TO THE PROBLEM...!
When you just sit there complaining, it works
against you in three ways;
1. First,
NO ONE wants to hear negative news about your illness and your problems.
2. Secondly,
complaining reinforces your own pain and discomfort. So why keep replaying painful,
negative memories?
3. Thirdly,
complaining, by itself, ACCOMPLISHES NOTHING and DIVERTS YOU FROM THE
CONSTRUCTIVE ACTIONS you could be taking to improve your situation!
It is said that when you lay your complaints to 10
people;
-
5 out of the 10 ARE NOT
LISTENING to you because they are thinking about their own problems.
-
3 out of the remaining
5 ARE LISTENING KEENLY, in order to GOSSIP to others about it!
-
The remaining 2 ARE
GLAD that you have problems!
SO WHAT THEN SHOULD WE
DO?
My advice at this point is that we should make a
WRITTEN LIST of all the things we are grateful for no matter how small. For example; I am grateful that I woke up
this morning, I can breathe normally, walk upright, think straight, see, hear,
speak clearly...etc. Do this whenever
thoughts of complaining come to your mind.
— William Penn once
wrote that
The secret of happiness is to count your blessings
while others are adding up their troubles.
The
next thing I suggest is that you should BE A SOURCE OF GOOD NEWS TO OTHERS...
People often run away
from those who complain a lot!
The people who don’t complain very much (and those who
speak positively) are a joy to be
around. Decide to join that group — so that
others won’t have to cross the road when they see you coming!
From now on, let’s do ourselves and others a favour
and make our conversations uplifting.
In my next write-up, I will share with you the fact
that WE ARE GENIUSES if we are willing to stay positive, focused and
disciplined. Isaiah 54:17 tells me
that;
NO
WEAPON FASHIONED AGAINST ME SHALL PROSPER……..
I will therefore DO MY BEST and God will DO THE REST. And my best is that I will stay Great,
Fantastic, Enthusiastic, Motivated, Happy, Successful, Energetic, Smart,
Intelligent and Confident
IN
JESUS’ NAME ... AMEN.
By Ndimofor Aretas
Monday,
16/11/2015
(For the week of 16th November – 20th November
2015)
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